Boundaries

Historically, I’ve had very few boundaries and often lived in a constant state of resentment. I’m trying to use this emotion as a clue that a boundary is likely indicated. In fact, I often need an unspoken boundary to be violated and feel resentful before deciding to actually communicate the boundary. The first step in this process is being aware of what’s happening, which is extremely hard, in my opinion.

Actually setting boundaries is a new skill for me. Sometimes, I stay quiet and resentful. Sometimes, I swing hard the other way and place extremely strict boundaries out of anger. It takes time to find a middle ground, but honestly, the angry version helps me the most in the beginning.